Notes & Quotes: Open by Andre Agassi

The following are my favorite notes from Andre Agassi's Open: An Autobiography.
  1. I play tennis for a living, even though I hate tennis, hate it with a dark and secret passion, and always have.
  2. I’ve won 869 matches in my career, fifth on the all-time list, and many were won during the afternoon shower.
  3. Disorder is distraction.
  4. I don't like anything that's rigged, so I don't give much effort.
  5. Against bad players I press, which is the tennis term for not letting things flow. Pressing is one of the deadliest things you can do in tennis.
  6. The first time I ever hit a ball on grass is the first time I play Wimbledon.
  7. I can’t imagine all these people trying to be like Andre Agassi, since I don’t want to be Andre Agassi.
  8. People don’t understand the pain of losing in a final. You practice and travel and grind to get ready. You win for one week, four matches in a row. (Or, at a slam, two weeks, six matches.) Then you lose that final match and your name isn’t on the trophy, your name isn’t in the record books. You lost only once, but you’re a loser.
  9. No one bothers to explain that snapping, baring your fangs, makes reporters more rabid. Don’t show them fear, but don’t show them your fangs, either.
  10. "If somebody can write down your [workout] routine on a piece of paper, it isn’t worth the piece of paper it’s written on. You’re asking me to put you through a workout here that leaves no room for where you are, how you’re feeling, what you need to focus on. It doesn’t allow for change." - Gil Reyes, Andre's trainer
  11. Losing is one thing; being outgunned is another.
  12. I spent my childhood in an isolation chamber, my teen years in a torture chamber.
  13. There's a lot of good waiting for you on the other side of tired.
  14. A win doesn’t feel as good as a loss feels bad, and the good feeling doesn’t last as long as the bad. Not even close.
  15. The house always wins, right? Why? Because the odds are stacked in the house’s favor. So? Be the house!
  16. Perfectionism is something I chose, and it’s ruining me, and I can choose something else. I must choose something else.
  17. Simply knowing your enemy is a powerful advantage.
  18. I did it—I’m the number one tennis player on earth, and yet I feel empty.
  19. They remind me of the old Vegas loan shark method of beating someone with a bag of oranges, because it leaves no outer bruises.
  20. Losing on purpose isn't easy. It's almost harder than winning.
  21. The deliberately bad decisions are made in a dark place, far below the surface.
  22.  Remember this. Hold on to this. This is the only perfection there is, the perfection of helping others. This is the only thing we can do that has any lasting value or meaning. This is why we’re here. To make each other feel safe.
  23. So you hate tennis. Hate it all you want. You still need to respect it—and yourself.
  24. This is why we’re here. To fight through the pain and, when possible, to relieve the pain of others. So simple. So hard to see.
  25. It's in hospital hallways that we know what life is about.
  26. It doesn’t matter if you hit the best shot in the world—remember? If it’s the wrong moment, it’s the wrong shot.
  27. After dinner [Nelson] Mandela stands and gives a stirring talk. His theme: we must all care for one another—this is our task in life. But also we must care for ourselves, which means we must be careful in our decisions, careful in our relationships, careful in our statements. We must manage our lives carefully, in order to avoid becoming victims.
  28. I feel only a cool gratitude and a steely resolve, which I maintain in part by waking early every morning, writing out my goals. After putting them on paper, saying them aloud, I also say aloud: No shortcuts.
  29. One set—try for that. Scaling down the task makes it seem manageable and makes me looser.
  30. Order, specificity, a clear and precise goal, are like candy to me.
  31. Some people are thermometers, some are thermostats. You’re a thermostat. You don’t register the temperature in a room, you change it.
  32. Being with the right woman is true happiness.
  33. We go out to dinner, to Matsuhisa. We sit at the sushi bar, holding hands, telling each other it’s going to be fantastic. I don’t realize until later that this is the same restaurant where it all unraveled with Brooke. Just like tennis. The same court on which you suffer your bloodiest defeat can become the scene of your sweetest triumph.
  34. Time and practice equal achievement.
  35. Weak legs command. Strong legs obey.
  36. When you eat is as important as what you eat.
  37. Even if it’s not your ideal life, you can always choose it. No matter what your life is, choosing it changes everything.
  38. The fifth set has nothing to do with tennis. It’s true. The fifth set is about emotion and conditioning.
  39. Recognize the polar opposites within yourself, and if you can’t embrace them, or reconcile them, at least accept them and move on.

Notes & Quotes: Now Go Out There by Mary Karr

The following are my favorite quotes from Mary Karr's Now Go Out There: (And Get Curious).
  1. Rodney longs to date a tattooed girl, because he wants a woman willing to do stuff she’ll regret.
  2. That’s how fear works, isn’t it? Getting what you want often scares you more than not getting it.
  3. As deep as a wound is, that’s how deep the healing can be.
  4. Bad things are gonna happen to you, because they happen to us all. And worrying won’t stave the really bad things off.
  5. Don’t make the mistake of comparing your twisted-up insides to other people’s blow-dried outsides.
  6. A dysfunctional family is any family with more than one person in it.
  7. The opposite of love isn’t hate. It isn’t even indifference. It’s fear—often fear of the very pain and suffering which we all know are inevitable.
  8. The same inner voice you use to bash others eventually lands back on you.
  9. I’d like to install a button you could push that could say to you during the bad times, in a really convincing voice: “This hard spell might be the start of something truly great I can’t foresee right now because I’m scared shitless.”
  10. If you can get curious about what scares or infuriates you—especially if it’s part of yourself—you can grow less scared. And fast—in the flick of a lash. You can open your eyes onto a completely different world, because you can see it from a less terrified consciousness.
  11. And Walt [Mink] said a sentence I’ll never forget that has informed my life as a professor. “Because it’s my job to put information into his head, and unless I know what’s in there already, I can’t do my job.” He’d shown me how to replace revulsion with curiosity. How to wonder.
  12. There’s an unexpected power coming from care that I choose to interpret as divine.
  13. Being smart and rich are lucky, but being curious and compassionate will save your ass. Being curious and compassionate can take you out of your ego and edge your soul towards wonder.
This book is teeny-tiny! Before purchasing, consider borrowing from the library or even standing in the bookstore for 30 minutes and reading it from cover-to-cover.

Notes & Quotes: I Feel Like Going On by Ray Lewis

Here are my favorite quotes from Ray Lewis' I Feel Like Going On: Life, Game, and Glory:
  1. I made it my goal. Nothing would get in the way of that.
  2. Football taught me that I hated to lose. Lakeland [Florida] taught me that I needed to win.
  3. The game was a way to prove myself. That's all. A way to test myself.
  4. There is only one way to win, one way to play. All out, all the time.
  5. Wasn't just about the beauty of hard work, and pain, and chasing demons. It was about setting my father aside, burying his name--and freeing me to live my life my own way, here on in. On my own terms.
  6. I didn't have to be the biggest, or the fastest, or the strongest--all I needed was to put in the best effort.
  7. All the way to the NFL, last snap in the Super Bowl, I played like there was some little kid out there, eyeballing me through the rusted metal of a chain-link fence, modeling his game after mine.
  8. Every chance I ever got on a real football field, it didn't come about because I'd earned it outright. It didn't come about because I was picked first to fill this or that spot. No, it came about because of an injury [to a teammate] and because I was good and ready when the guy ahead of me went down.
  9. He had a body like Tarzan, but he took a hit like Jane.
  10. It was the difference between hearing and listening.
  11. Our motto was simple: big-time players make big-time plays in big-time games. Out of that came another motto: this is how we feed our kids.
  12. "By the time I'm through, I'll be the greatest player to ever play for the Miami Hurricanes."
  13. I didn't need Chuck Amato or Bobby Bowden or anyone else on that Florida State coaching staff to know they made a mistake, letting me slip away from their program. I already knew this myself, and that's all that counted.
  14. Sophomore year, I came into camp ripped, pissed, hungry.
  15. I put the blame someplace else, told myself those last two losses weren't on me. But that's not how you win as a team, is it?
  16. There are parts of the game you can't control. So my thing was to control what I could, and to influence everything else.
  17. That front-seven box we featured on that 1994 team--man, I've been a part of a lot of great defenses, but I will take that Hurricane line against anybody.
  18. When the good things are about to happen, the bad things can't be too far off.
  19. It was a motivating thing, an inspiring thing, to walk into Three Rivers Stadium and feel all that history. It was in the air, all around. We were inside the Steel Curtain, and that building just reeked of defense.
  20. Some of the things these police officers did to me, these corrections officers did to me, I won't ever speak of them again. Not from my lips. I will not reduce myself to revisit this ugliness. I'll just say it was demonic, the way I was treated. It was pure evil.
  21. My smile represents my past. My heart represents my future.
  22. You tell yourself the pain don't matter--and, just like that, it don't. And once you buy into that, there's no going back.
  23. If you show me your failures, I'll show you your future.
  24. Whatever it is, stand for something.
  25. I suffered the prejudice of judgment. Freddie Gray suffered the prejudice of prejudgment. Might not seem like a big shift--but to me, it's everything.
  26. If you've been done wrong, do right. If you've been done bad, do good. Be your own man. Live in your own skin. Serve your own God. Know your own mind.
  27. Real people don't follow--they lead. Real people don't need to be liked--they earn our respect.
  28. Everyone with a great name has been through something. A great deal of something.
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